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Problem areas

Take a look at the following issues and ask yourself if any of the symptoms apply to you. If they do, you might want to consider seeking help.


My clients report that a feeling of helplessness is the worst thing they experience with depression; the sense that they can do nothing about their problems. Feeling lost, alone, and unable to cope with even the smallest, most routine activities are symptoms which make depression so awful to live with and yet, in my experience, mild to moderate depression can be cured without the use of antidepressants. It is a good idea to seek help the moment you start experiencing symptoms of depression, before it becomes severe and more difficult to treat. Prevention is always better than cure.


Anxiety causes several physiological symptoms, like sweating palms or an erratic heartbeat, difficulty in breathing and chest pains. There is always a reason why we are anxious, and counselling will help examine the reasons and the origin of the problem. Anxiety prevents us living a fulfilling life but once we are rid of it, we feel much more fulfilled and happy.

Panic attacks

Panic attacks can make us feel as if we are going to die. We become dizzy, very frightened, nauseous and cannot breathe, and can feel as if we are about to have a heart attack. These horrible symptoms leave us feeling exhausted and very upset because they can go on for a while. These attacks can be cured with talk therapy, and does not have to blight your life forever.


Mass media refers to stress as the 'Silent Killer'. This is not an exaggeration, as stress is one of the main causes of ill-health, and has been linked to high blood pressure, ulcers, diabetes and heart attacks. A bigger problem arises when we do not realise that we are stressed, because the true reason for our ill-health is not uncovered, resulting in incorrect treatments and possibly over-medicating. Life is not always easy and most of us suffer with stress at one time or another, but when it starts to take away from the quality of your life, then it is time to address it. Talk therapy is one of the most effective forms of stress release.


We exist in complex relationships with everything and everyone around us, and it stands to reason that those relationships will sometimes become strained. Difficult relationships quite often lead to problems with anger management, anxiety, stress and sometimes depression. Imagine working with a boss who constantly undermines you: that is a strained relationship which will have an impact on other areas of your life. Not doing anything about it won't make the problem go away. Has partner cheated on you? Do you choose the right partners? Do you perhaps need to change the way you interact with others? If you are asking yourself these questions, you may need to speak to a counsellor for help answering them.


Confidence and self esteem work hand in hand. Self esteem refers to the value we put on ourselves. If we value ourselves highly then we generally have good self respect and high confidence levels. Low self esteem, on the other hand, takes away that confidence and replaces it with uncertainty. The greatest problem with leaving these two states untreated is that we never reach our full potential. Yet both conditions are fully treatable. I have watched many clients blossom once their issues of low self esteem and confidence have been dealt with.


How are we supposed to know how to deal with children today, especially teenagers? I have a 20 year old son and I know that parenting in this day and age is very different to what it was in earlier generations. Many parents complain about the unhealthy lifestyles their kids lead, and the lack of social interaction, bullying, even cannabis use. But you are WRONG if you think you are helpless, because you are not. Parents have power; they just don't know how to use it! Even parents can lose their confidence and because they don't want to hurt or alienate their children, may choose to 'leave it' rather than deal with it, but this does not help matters.

Lifestyle changes

One of the healthiest questions we can ask is: What can I do to change? Whether that refers to changes within yourself or changes to a certain situation, it is healthy simply because it means you are open to new ideas, to new challenges. That old saying about not being able to ‘teach old dogs new tricks’ is not strictly true; we can change any time we want to - but only when we really do want to. It could be a change in diet, career or social life, giving up of old habits, embracing new challenges, finding new friends, or simply moving on from a dead-end situation.

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